Having sex should be an awesome experience. In order for it to be so, a series of elements need to come together in unity and harmony. Much like in a movie, you need actors, a script, props AND a set.
Based on some of my recent experiences, many queers tend to forget this final piece of the phallic puzzle. This is why I’ve come up with 8 rules I swear by when having someone over. And so should all of us.
- Your safety comes before your load
Regardless of how horny you might be, ask the basic set of questions before having any drifter off the street in your home. I make it my job to get the bare minimum on all guys I have in my place. You can tell a lot about a man by the way he answers and what he has to say. If the guy has a job, a bf/gf or at least a car, odds are he is not a complete psycho. Also, establish from the start that this is only NSA. The last thing you want is to share your bed/food with a fuck date.
- Hygiene is essential.
It does not matter if you just got off from work or if he has been travelling all day. Sweat is small doses id hot, anything smelling of rotten eggs needs to be keeps in the trash, not in bed. I will not screw/blow or get blown by you if your breath smells or your pits taste like vinegar. Wear and tear are understandable, but if you come to my place, I can provide a shower, soap and a towel. I expect you to do the same. If you want to save water, we can shower together.
- It’s a fuck date, not a tour
I hate it when people come to my place and get sidetracked by my stuff. I did not call you over to talk about my Ikea bed. I want you to rock it, not assess it. When in someone’s home – for NSA – observe as little as possible and ask as little as possible. You’re there for the person’s body, not Real Estate 101. The less intrusive you are, the more chances you will have good sex.
- NEVER ask yourself back to someone’s place. It’s is always up to the host to advise if you will be meeting in the same setting. It’s completely disrespectful and clingy to start wondering about coming back right after cumming. If you guys clicked, your host will ask you to stay for coffee or tell you when he will be free again. Nine out of ten cases, if a guy didn’t ask me back to his place, we never fucked again. Same was for me – no good fuck, no new house visit.